When I was pregnant with my first baby, I was adamant that I didn’t want to find out if we were having a boy or a girl at the scan. My Other Half did want to find out though so I said he could ask but he wasn’t to tell me but on second thoughts, I couldn’t stand the thought of him knowing and me not.. so we compromised.. and I got my own way so we didn’t find out ; )
I wanted it to be a lovely surprise from Mother Nature and I saw it as a reward for surviving labour! I truly and honestly didn’t care if we were having a boy or a girl and either way, I planned on the baby wearing nothing but white as a newborn anyway. During my pregnancy I did have a feeling that I was having a boy (which turned out to be right!) but I loved the excitement of not knowing for the whole nine months.
Then when I was pregnant for the second time, I didn’t want to find out again but I felt so bad that I had got my own way the first time around that I agreed with my Other Half that we would find out this time. But then at the scan, the baby had her legs crossed and they couldn’t tell us and I was secretly really pleased to be having another surprise!
Then roll on another six years or so when I was expecting our third baby, this time around, our eldest two children were desperate to know if the baby would be a boy or a girl! I was really worried about how they would take to having a new baby around and I thought maybe if they knew if they were getting a new brother or sister, it might help them get used to the idea. So we found out that we were having another girl.
Then along came the news of our fourth (and very much bonus) baby surprise. This time around, we had just moved house to accommodate our growing family and now it was about to get even bigger! So for completely practical reasons of deciding the children’s bedrooms etc, we decided to find out and we were in fact expecting another girl!
I have to say that personally, I love the surprise of not finding out but I can see why I, and other people, find out. I mean sometimes there are practical reasons for finding out and also I totally get that people just can’t wait to find out! Having a baby is so exciting after all. And do you know what, it is a lovely surprise on the actual birth day but in all honesty, it is such a momentous day anyway that it doesn’t take away from that if you do find out. It’s a lovely surprise whenever you find out – at the scan or at the birth!
I saw a statistic lately that was split almost 50/50 as to whether people decide to find out or not. So what about you? Did you find out if you were expecting a girl or boy?Photo credit: Flickr – Vintage portrait of two babies by Beverly and Pack