Along comes another celebrity baby, along comes another so-called silly name.
Except I don’t quite agree with the silly bit. As in, who can decide what is silly or not?
I don’t ‘do’ gossip magazines and the like, partly because I just don’t have the time and mostly because I am generally not that interested in the mainly made-up stories about people who don’t really interest me. But I am online probably more than I should be *cough* so it is quite hard to completely escape the latest celebrity news, in particular when a new baby comes along. For starters it is usually all over Twitter!
But I digress.
Over the weekend, Myleene Klass anounced the safe arrival of her second baby girl and yes, there were celebratory comments but these were mostly overshadowed by the ones that were criticising their choice in naming their new baby girl Hero Harper. Yes, it is unusual but who’s business is it but theirs what they decide to name their baby? And it kind of struck a nerve as I too gave my girls more unusual names and got so much criticism for it from some family.
And it hurt.
My Other Half and I agonised over all of our children’s names for the whole nine months and none of them had a name actually chosen before they were born – only ever a long shortlist! But we really did put thought into their names. And they were names that we truly truly loved rather than something that was ‘nice’ and predictably safe. We didn’t choose more unusual names trying to ‘different’ or in some attention seeking way. In fact, anyone that knows me will know just how incredibly shy I am in real life and that I am anything but an attention seeker! But the way I saw it was that you only get one chance to name your child and I could only give my children a name that I absolutely loved. And given the reaction that this got from some family saying that they should be given ‘proper’ names, I see now that for me, I was rather brave in my choices. But I am so glad that I was and that we stuck to our guns and gave our children names that we really loved.
I hope that my children love their names too – they certainly suit them! But covering all bases, they do have more conventional middle names should they grow up not to like them. That said, at some point I think everyone dislikes their name, I know I hated my boring old name of Sarah as a teenager (mainly because there were so many Sarahs about..!) So no doubt at some point my children won’t like their names because they are unusual. I don’t think you can really win either way with that one!
The thing is, choosing a name is really quite a personal thing. It is all a question of personal taste except you are putting your choice out there for the world to share as it were. But that doesn’t make it alright for people to criticise your choice. So an unusual name isn’t to everyone’s taste? I totally get that! But that doesn’t make it alright to ridicule it. Or question your choice. I would never criticise someone who gave their child a so called ‘normal’ name so why label somebody elses choices ‘silly’? What gives anyone the right to be so harsh in judging somebody elses choice? And is it really any of their business anyway?
Is it so wrong to go against what is apparently the norm when it comes to choosing your baby’s name? Who decides what is the norm anyway? I find it hard to believe why some people do have such a problem with it. And why they feel the need to be so vocal in telling you so!
I don’t know, maybe I’m wrong…
What do you think…?
- Myleene Klass gives birth to a baby girl (telegraph.co.uk)