I’m the first to admit that I’m not very good with change. And I also freely admit how I bumble along quite literally making it up as I go along. The thought of my eldest two becoming teenagers has quite frankly been something that has filled me with absolute fear and dread. The teen years are arguably the biggest challenge yet and I have said a thousand times before that I would take sleepless nights and leaky boobs over this any day.
But last week, it hit me like a thunderbolt that I had got it all wrong. Teens are in fact bloody fabulous. Or at least they can be. If you put aside the grumpiness, the raging hormones and smelly bedrooms of course. The only thing that had been stopping me from seeing their fabulousness was my own fear of not knowing how to be a parent to teens. How completely and utterly stupid.
When I stopped to take a breath I realised that teens are in fact amazing company. They are full of life and energy (not first thing in a morning when you are trying to get them out of bed for school of course, that goes without saying) But it’s almost infectious. They are on the cusp of becoming fully fledged adults and I’m beginning to see the grown-ups that my children will soon become. And they are all kinds of awesome. So awesome in fact that I sometimes wonder if they really are my children.
I can see so much of myself in my children and it actually makes my heart swell with pride like I have never known. My son is like me in so many ways from a funny thing we both do with our eyebrows when we are chuntering under our breath to the way we are always both right *cough* But with my daughter in particular, the likeness is just astounding. It is honestly like having the chance to meet my teenage self. Except she is like a new and improved version of me, full of the confidence that I never ever had. I love their spirit. I love that they are so full of life and hope. They are hopefully on the cusp of such wonderful lives and I am excited to be there as they unfold.
It’s such an amazing time in their lives. I am so glad that I can see that now. And share in it and even cherish it. Of course, I’m not expecting the years ahead to be plain sailing and I know that there are quite possibly years of hell ahead. But instead of fearing what might lie ahead, I think I’d rather enjoy the right now. You see right now, I feel like I might just be able to actually do this whole being the parent of teenagers thing after all. By the skin of my teeth of course, that goes without saying. But maybe change doesn’t have to be that scary after all.