Making the normal, well, normal.

I see the fuss about a breastfeeding doll is doing the rounds yet again? Honestly, I don’t know why so many people have got their knickers in a twist over something that for starters is nothing new but seriously, is it such a big deal?ย *rolls eyes*

Growing up, I never saw a baby (real or otherwise) being fed from anything but a bottle. At some point I’m sure that I must have been vaguely aware that breastfeeding was even an option but it wasn’t until I was expecting my own baby that I really gave it any thought. I knew from the off that I wanted to give it a try but I have to say that it was a decision that wasn’t always welcomed by those around me. In fact, when I was pregnant I mentioned to my mother in law that I planned to give breastfeeding a go. The next time I saw her, she had bought me packs and packs of feeding bottles because she was sure I would come to my senses once the baby was here. Thankfully I had the confidence not to take any notice of her but I think this gives you a taster of what I was up against and to be fair, I think that is a whole other blog post in itself. I guess looking back, I was challenging her normal. But my point back then was, and still is, that breastfeeding is normal.

Don’t be mistaken for thinking that I am making this a breast versus formula debate. I’m really really not. In fact for what it’s worth, I don’t think there should even be such a debate *yawn* I’m a big believer in feeding your baby however best works for you and as long as you feed it at all, then quite frankly it’s nobody else’s business but your own. But sometimes it can be hard to even talk about breastfeeding without somebody taking offence which is just ridiculous and at the end of the day, their issue. As is the case with this breastfeeding doll of course. Virtually every baby doll that I have ever bought for my children has come complete with a pretend feeding bottle. And not once has this offended me. Not one bit. And why would it?

You see, whether a mother chooses to breastfeed or not is actually besides the point when it comes to the fuss over this doll. The point is that breastfeeding is normal. And anything that teaches our children that, can only be a good thing surely? I breastfed all four of my children (for varying lengths of time and with varying success it has to be said) but now they don’t even bat an eyelid when they see a nursing mother. In fact, when playing ‘mummies and daddies’ as all four of them have over the years, they have pretended to breastfeed their dollies. And teddies. And dinosaurs. Just as they have also copied rocking them to sleep or playing peekaboo.ย I think it’s quite natural that they copy what they see around them to be normal.

Will this breastfeeding doll be making it on our list to Santa this year? Honestly? No. My children manage to breast (and bottle) feed the umpteen baby dolls that they already have without being told how to do it. But that doesn’t mean that I can’t see what a big step this doll could be in challenging the taboos that we sadly still see today. And that can only ever be a good thing for the future generation of breast (or bottle) feeding parents.

 

15 thoughts on “Making the normal, well, normal.

  1. Mrs TeePot (@TeePotTweets) says:

    I’m with you. I used to breast feed my dolls as a child without the need for a specific doll to do it, but the fact that there’s a doll on the market that doesn’t come with a bottle is huge progress in my opinion.

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  2. Julie Beverley says:

    The best statement I have heard by far about breast v bottle ‘as long as it is being fed who cares’!!

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  3. Notmyyearoff says:

    I’ve seen so many little kids hold a doll to their chest to “feed” it, then burp and change its nappy too. And they’ll carry on doing it as long as babies are being fed up and down the world.

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  4. MrsB says:

    The nerve of your MIL! I’m from a culture where everyone breastfeeds so I never even had the breast vs bottle debate in my head…

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  5. Alison @ Not Another Mummy Blog says:

    I am SO with you on this. I blogged about it last year when the doll story was doing the rounds then.
    The fuss caused over the doll is proof that there is still a lot of weirdness and prejudice towards breastfeeding mums. It’s really no different to the dolls being sold with bottles.

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  6. Muddling Along says:

    I don’t see why we need a ‘special’ doll – my two have been sticking their dollies under their shirts to give them milk instinctively because it’s what they know as normal (and possibly because I have hidden the bottles and dummies…)

    And to come back to the little girls not having breast comment made earlier, children aren’t allowed a driving licence but they can still play cars – this is about playing being a grown up not actual real breastfeeding…

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