Kate was the kind of friend who always had the right words at just the right time. She was never scared to tell you what she thought and always gave the best advice. Sometimes that advice could be hard to take but mostly it was the kind of wisdom that stuck with you, you know? Just over a week ago, us chatting on Twitter soon turned into her giving a pep talk about me going back to college. She was good at pep talks. The best in fact. When somebody as amazing as Kate believes in you, you start to believe in yourself. It was like her brilliance, her dazzling shining brilliance, would rub off on you. She had the biggest, kindest heart and boy did she know how to share out that love. Kate also taught me that ice cream for lunch is always an option and Maxibon are the mightiest of them all. I’m usually a Nobbly Bobbly girl myself but I might have to admit defeat on this one.
We were like chalk and cheese in so many ways. Kate was bright, bold and brave. It is no exaggeration to say that she would light up a whole room. I was the mouse to her lioness. But she was the friend who totally got me, you know? That’s a rare thing the older you get. But my friend Kate truly was one in a million. She was one of my oldest and best blogging chums from the original crowd. We’ve been friends forever online but we were also lucky enough to meet lots of times at various conferences and events in the earlier years when blogging wasn’t quite the beast that it is today. I will never ever forget one time she came to meet me off the train at Kings Cross before we went to a charity event together. It was one of those days when everything was going wrong – late trains, tube closures, the works. She knew how nervous I was about travelling down on my own and went out of her way to come and meet me off my train so we could get a cab and be late together. I was greeted with the biggest snog and the offer of a slice of melon and all of a sudden my disastrous morning had been transformed.
In the days since we lost her, I have been brought to tears by the outpouring of love that I have seen for Kate in the blogging community. It is amazing to see just how many lives she has touched. She meant so much to so many of us. If you knew Kate, then you know just how special she was. My heart hurts just talking about her in the past tense. It feels so wrong. How can my Kate, my lovely lovely Kate, not be with us anymore? I still can’t understand how somebody so full of life and love can be no more. She was truly beautiful inside and out and will be so, so missed.
I have lost my friend but of course, her family have lost their everything. Kate was no age at all and leaves behind her two sons Ben and Dexter and her lovely Dad. My heart breaks for them all. Her eldest son Ben set up a Go Fund Me Page to help with the cost of her funeral. I’ve included a link here and there is one on my Instagram page too. I’m crying just typing this, no child should ever have to do that. I can’t even begin to imagine the pain that they are all going through. If you knew Kate, even if it was only through her writing, if you can spare a thought and a pound or two for her family it would mean so much. Nothing can make this tragedy better but we can help to take away some of the financial burden that the coming months will bring. Kate was always very open about her own money troubles and as a hard-working single mum, when the very worst happens there is no back-up plan. This feels like the least we can do for her boys so please let’s spread that kindness like Kate would have done by donating and sharing.